Global Journal of Human Social Science, C: Sociology and Culture, Volume 22 Issue 6

communication and in which, according to them, women are considered proud and should be insisted upon and it is that pride that prevents them from communicating, as (Bonelli, 2016) argues, the prevailing gender roles and stereotypes, correlate in some way with attitudes on the part of women, which could even lead to psychological violence before these. This could be related to what was previously stated about gender roles and stereotypes imposed by society, in which women have a passive role and men an active role, in this case, complementing with more answers from the same person, with the idea that women feel comfortable being the conquered, those who do not write first, and have an imposed ideal in their heads, which they do not want to change, and that is, that for society, This weight of always having to be the one who is looking for a man does not please men either, it leans towards the myth of Prince Charming and the princess, the princess waiting quietly for her prince to arrive, she idealizes him, and the prince goes through a series of obstacles until he gets to her, which apparently and according to some discourses in this research, does not please men, reaching again the same conclusion: stereotypes and gender roles, not only harm women, but also men. In the case of women, previous histories and people outside the relationship and the differences between the members of the couple are important, love is learned, and by normalizing certain behaviors, and by being familiar with them they allow them, that is, if they have had partners who have been for example violent, This indicator also refers to the people who get involved in the relationship, which can range from infidelity to friends and relatives who interfere in the relationship. In summary, it could be said that for most people, love is different from romantic love and at the same time, this is different from holistic love, although for many people also, romantic love is sometimes a synonym of holistic love, noting the confusion about concepts that those who participated have. Within the interpretation of romantic love, the "love of conquest and details" has special weight, which emerged in men and women, this love is understood as: "a love with flowers and chocolates", it is understood as the love that is given with signs of affection through gifts and the love that is seen in movies, etc., the last answer is important, because it encompasses, that apart from believing that romantic love is a love of details, it is being linked to idealization and how it becomes a danger. These details can become a danger when this model of love is idealized, as some participants mentioned, no matter what happens, if your partner apologizes and gives you details, these details could lead to VAW, because they are an important part of the cycle of violence, specifically the honeymoon; because they are so internalized and idealized and are an end to be had, they can justify VAW. Another important component is the conquest factor, more than anything else present in the discourse of men, in which most of them, sustain that it is the conquest falls on them and supposes a burden for them, again this rejection of men towards gender roles and stereotypes established by society arises. Idealization as a concept shared by men and women participating in this research, and understood as an idealization, as can be noted, this concept is linked to the details and conforms the concept used in this research, which sees it as: "a sociocultural construction in which the other is idealized and which is nourished by gender roles and stereotypes established and normalized by society " which coincides to a large extent with the concepts given by those who participated in the research, but in turn, it also encompasses the other concepts proposed by the participants of the research. In the case of women, the concepts of suffering love and love as a necessity emerged, these concepts were backed up by the responses to the open-ended question "What do you consider romantic love to be?" on the questionnaire. These concepts argue that romantic love is unconditional and unreciprocated. The discourses were striking and even more so if we take into account that they only emerged as an indicator from the women in the focus groups and that they are reaffirmed by the answers of the women who filled out the questionnaire, which is that for many women, loving is synonymous with suffering, suffering in relationships is normalized, and it is in a certain way justifying suffering for the sake of a greater good, in this case the ideal of love, propitiating VAW as Vara-Horna and López (2017) argue, it is this love plagued by gender roles and stereotypes that have normalized the conception of love that women have and normalizes this sort of behavior, as also mentioned by (Herrera, 2012). The aforementioned shows the relationship between romantic love and VAW, which, as Muenala (2018) and Cerro and Vives (2019) argue in their research, that the inequalities in couple-relationships and roles, gender stereotypes and myths that make up romantic love, promote VAW and normalize it, which is reaffirmed by the interpretation that the participants had about VAW. In order to be able to talk about VAW, it was first necessary, in the case of the men's focus groups, to talk about whether violence against men in relationships exists, to find out if they believed it existed and if so, how it manifested itself, agreeing that violence against men in relationships is present, and that it occurs mostly in a psychological way, and that it is also society that is responsible for undermining this form of violence since it judges men who suffer violence, questioning their masculinity and making fun of them. The role of men in couple-relationships is that of being the dominant one, the one who in a certain way exercises power, it is normalized that a man is violent and even justified, but when some type of violence is exercised against them in © 2022 Global Journals Volume XXII Issue VI Version I 17 ( ) Global Journal of Human Social Science - Year 2022 C Romantic Love and Violence against Women from a Gender Approach