Global Journal of Human Social Science, C: Sociology and Culture, Volume 22 Issue 6

beliefs about gender roles and stereotypes still predominates. In romantic love, in addition to the fact that VAW is largely normalized in society, despite the fact that in many cases it is identified as something negative. Romantic love as understood by those who participated in the study, although it has its particularities, continues to be part of the constructs established and generalized by the dominant society and culture. Gender roles and stereotypes are conducive to VAW, the role of the male provider and the "aggressive male" who cannot express emotions, are to a large extent some of the causes of the perpetuation of VAW, women who put up with that and believe that they should be unconditionally in love and men who believe that the partner should be unconditionally in love with them, the lack of faith in the justice system and society with prejudices against the masculinity of men and the gaslighting of men who are victims of violence by their partners. While some important causes that perpetuate VAW have been found here, there are also causes of inequality and unhappiness for both men and women and causes that keep people away from holistic love and from feeling good about themselves and their lives, that is why there is an evident need to ponder on these things and to bring about changes. It is crucial to emphasize that in this research, the indicators of love (in general) for men and women were the same, although some were addressed in different ways, they had a common point, love has always been present in people's lives and it seems that it will always be, perhaps today love has become a danger for many women, and perhaps many of them are aware of this danger and many others are not, perhaps many women are looking for a change in their lives and in their relationships and perhaps many others feel comfortable with this danger, perhaps many women are looking for a change in their lives and in their relationships and perhaps many others feel comfortable with some things as they are as in the subject of conquest and the role of men as those who carry the baton, perhaps some men have some privileges that the exercise of power give them and they do not want to lose them, perhaps many others want to have healthy relationships, in which they can express themselves and make their emotions known and also why not, the role of providers, imposed by society and culture so long ago, but what this research wanted to achieve, beyond imposing absolute truths, was to encourage reflection, that is also why it was conducted from the gender approach. Knowing how young people between 18 and 30 years of age interpret romantic love and VAW, the age range chosen for this study had the intention of collecting affirmations, encounters and reflections, that would help to understand what is happening in our reality, taking into account that the majority of femicides are perpetrated by young people between these ages. does romantic love really explain the increase in femicide figures? Or is it one of the many possible explanations? Delving into this issue is the only thing that could provide answers, but according to what has been analyzed in this study, the relationship is close and there are men who believe that a principle of love is that the other person is unconditional, as there are women who believe that loving means being unconditional, and people of both sexes who idealize love, and many others who do not find the difference between love and romantic love and who accept the link between love and violence, as people who believe that love must be suffered. All these beliefs must be reflected upon, people must stop being guided by what is "common" and what societies have imposed, they must realize why they take the attitudes they take and perform the acts they do, question themselves and try to find an understanding of their situation in order to find their own well-being. Love is learned, love, roles and gender stereotypes are nothing more than social constructions, they vary according to time and place, and as some discourses argue, it is through previous generations that we know what we know now and how one should behave according to their sex and what role should have within their relationships, but throughout the research conducted, what the researcher has put of oneself into it and what has been learned in the process, we come to the conclusion that the past should be seen as a learning experience, in the sense that it gives guidelines of what has happened, how it has been done and what could be wrong, what has not worked and what has had negative repercussions. This past and the previous generations, and societies and cultures should be seen with a lens, a lens of reflection, and no longer as a manual to be followed. Love, once again, must lead people to empower themselves, not to be suffering for anyone and even less a danger, holistic love must be differentiated from romantic love, VAW must no longer be justified or normalized, and for that, it is necessary to see its possible causes, attack the root of the problem and promote full and healthy relationships and people, and this and each of the concepts that are presented here and that do harm and generate inequality, must be deconstructed. It is crucial to see the importance that context gives to romantic love, what it is understood by this and what myths it accepts, potentiates and how this influences the perpetuation of couple-relationships that have exercises of power of men over women. In itself, to understand what happens in our environment, should provide the basis and shed light on what should be done in the future and how to make it work, if couple- relationships are not satisfactory or equitable, they should be rethought, as Derrida (2019) says the key is to deconstruct, understanding this term not as the © 2022 Global Journals Volume XXII Issue VI Version I 19 ( ) Global Journal of Human Social Science - Year 2022 C Romantic Love and Violence against Women from a Gender Approach